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Why, God?

Like you, there are moments when I just don't get life. This section is one which will be developed over time as I wrestle with the question, "Why, God?" Sometimes I ask that question in frustration and despair; sometimes because I am simply trying to understand what God is wanting to reveal to me. Visit this page again soon for additions!


"Sooner or later our intellect will pose questions we cannot possibly answer. At that point, we would be wise to remember His words, 'As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than you ways and my thoughts than your thoughts' (Isaiah 55:9). And our reply should be 'Not my will, but thine be done' (Luke 22:42, KJV)." Dr. James Dobson


"There are questions for which answers are hidden in the mind and heart of a loving God. All we can say is this: Our God has so designed the moral universe that, as the Bible says, the rain falls on the just and the unjust. We live in a fallen world. We live in a world that's distorted by sin, and ever since sin entered the human race in the Garden of Eden there has been sin, sickness, pain, suffering, and death. So I don't think we'll often be able to know in individual situations why one child gets cancer, why one marriage breaks up, why one person loses his job and another one is promoted. Sometimes we'll come up with superficial answers, but truly I've discovered that the deeper and more heartrending the question, the harder it is to come up with an answer on a human level." Dr. Ray Pritchard


"It's going to be all right," Doug assured him, holding his son on the exam table.

"When they stuck him with the needle, Josh looked straight at me. Looking deep into my eyes as I firmly held his head he cried, 'Daddy!' It was only one work, but his look said a million words, 'Daddy, why the pain? Why are you letting them hurt me? It's not my fault. Why, Daddy? I thought you loved me?' "

"My eyes burned with tears as my mind suddenly raced to the familiar phrases I had uttered months before, 'Why, God? I thought you were my Father? Why, Daddy, why?' . . . Very clearly God spoke to my heart in that moment. He simply said, 'It's the same with you and me.' . . . God . . . has no desire to see His children suffer. But if this temporal suffering provides a greater blessing, whether we understand it or not, He will allow it. He sees what we cannot."

"Though our bodies are dying, our spirits are being renewed every day. For our present troubles are quite small and won't last very long . . . But the joys to come will last forever." II Corinthians 4:16-18  

Doug Herman's 6-month-old daughter, Ashli and his wife Evon died of AIDS in 1991.


Suggested Reading:

If God Is So Good, Why Do I Hurt So Bad?    by Dr. David Biebel

When God Doesn't Make Sense   by Dr. James Dobson

The Wounded Heart: Hope for Adult Victims of Sexual Abuse   by Dan Allender

Through a Season of Grief: Devotions for Your Journey from Mourning to Joy   by Bill Dunn and Kathy Leonard

Grief Recovery Books available through Parable Books

Grace Under Pressure    by Penelope Stokes